They are A, S, and L. And I think they're amazing.
A: She is the oldest, and you can tell. I am the oldest and it's so fascinating to see those characteristics in someone else. She prefers to be with the adults, and she loves to have their attention. And she's usually the first one the adults ask for help. She's a perfectionist and this comes through in her grades and her tears when something doesn't go exactly how she planned. She's a dancer and it shows: tall, lithe, lovely. She is right at the crossroads of becoming adult, but she's still a kid. So sometimes she asks very adult questions and she loves make up and heels, but then other times she squeals and clings like a little girl. So adorable.
S: She's the girl I always wanted to be like. She's easy going (like her dad) and a bit of a tomboy. She likes quirky stuff. She loves animals, and when she catches one she almost always names it "Bob." She can spend hours on a computer playing games or drawing. She has the greatest tendency to hide what she's really feeling until it all comes out in a stressful moment. I think she misses her parents being married the most, and it just makes her more endearing. She has lovely blue/green/gray eyes that hold all of her secrets. Love her.
L: All of these girls have obvious signs of their birth order, and L is most definitely the youngest. She loves attention, especially from her dad. She's getting pretty tall now, but she still always prefers to sit on his lap if she can. She is pure emotion. If she's happy, she's all joy and squeal. If she's sad, she's all tears and sobs. If she's angry, she's all yelling and explosion. And I respect her for it. She's incredibly honest about where she is in the moment, and I think more adults could benefit from emulating that kind of realness. She is the only one who will sometimes call me Mom (which I find really, really weird and slightly paralyzing). But she's a cuddler. Oh, and I love to do homework with her because she loves doing it! She loves learning, and she's good at it.
From the first moment I met his girls, they've impressed me. They have been through massive amounts of change and upheaval in a short amount of time and despite it, they have remained open, loving, and flexible. And I have found the kindness and love they've offered me life-changing. These girls operate consistently in "love" much better than most adults. There was one day where I was pulling up to The Mister's house, and S came blazing out of the house running behind my car, hair flying. I want to be more like that.
They are an extension of The Mister, and frankly, he would not be him in all of his marvelousness without them. They've created him, and Oh I love him, which means I love them.
It helps, I think, that my parents are divorced. I don't feel the least bit jealous of their time with him or anything like that. Knowing my place in everything (when to say something to them and when not to) is really the most confusing part. I'm not their mom and I never will be. They have a wonderful mom who loves them. So I need to fall somewhere between friend and mentor maybe? We'll see. I just know that I'm glad they're around because they're pretty freakin' cool.
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