A fear

I just read the blog of a woman who just separated from her husband. As I read it, my stomach clenched in fear. I really, really don't want to end up there. And yet anyone with eyes can see that it happens frequently to people who were once where I am. They were happy and in love and thought nothing could ever ruin that.

How do we prevent that? I'm not totally sure. But here are my initial thoughts.

I think we both have to maintain our seperate selves. We can not give each other responsibility for our happiness or saddness or whatever.

I think I have to be careful to not criticize and to not shut down when events or information overwhelm me.

I think we have to maintain our relationship with frequent quality time together (weekly dates or something) where we talk about our lives. I think we have to create lots of opportunities for fun.

I think we have to work at spiritual growth, separately and together.

I'll be pondering this for a while.

Any other thoughts?